When it comes to dealing with family court stuff, it’s natural to wonder if Dads are getting a fair shake. We all want what’s best for our kids, right? But sometimes, things can feel a bit uncertain, especially when it comes to figuring out our rights as dads in the UK. In this blog post, we’re diving deep into this topic to help you understand how things really work and what you can do to stand up for your rights.
So, here’s the truth: family courts in the UK are all about making sure our kids are safe and happy. They’re not supposed to favour Mums or Dads – it’s about what’s best for the little ones. But yeah, we get it, sometimes it might seem like dads don’t always get an equal say.
You might be thinking, “Do I really have a shot at winning this?”
Alright, let’s get into the numbers. According to the power that be who keep track of these things, Dads getting full custody doesn’t happen as often as it does for Mums. Around 10-15% of the time, dads win sole custody. But more often, both parents end up sharing the responsibility. Although its often not equal by any means– they often still call it joint custody.
Now, let’s talk about what might lead to those numbers. Some factors that play a role include:
Historically, Mums have often taken on the primary caregiver role, which can influence custody decisions. If you’ve been actively involved in your child’s upbringing, make sure the court knows it.
For younger kids, courts may lean toward the parent who has been the primary caregiver. But remember, this isn’t set in stone – your involvement matters.
Here’s an interesting fact – in many cases, Dads are more likely to be working full-time jobs. This can sometimes influence custody decisions. Courts consider who can provide a stable environment. If your work schedule allows you to be there for your child, that’s a big plus.
But on the other hand as us Dads know by reducing hours and not providing as much child maintenance can also then cause conflict for not providing another. Which is often still today seen as the males responsibility to be the provider.
Dads advocates when surveying 762 separated Dads 86% report child maintenance is one of the factors influencing how much access to their children they get. Due the pay per night system.
Courts want to see that both parents can work together for the child’s benefit. Being willing to communicate and cooperate can make a difference.
In our experience if parents can not get on this limits the amount of contact Dads get as a third party often has to be involved to do handover and the court may attempt to reduct communication between the parents to prevent conflict in front of the kids.
In the majority of cases where parents agree a plan before or during family court proceedings that is what a court order irrespective of what Cafcass or Social services recommend.
As kids get older, their preferences may be taken into account, but they won’t be the only factor.
Ultimately, the court’s main concern is the child’s safety and well-being. If you can show you’re capable of providing a loving, secure environment, that’s a big step
Now, let’s dive into another important aspect – safeguarding allegations. These are concerns raised about a parent’s ability to provide a safe environment for the child. Statistics show that both Mums and Dads can raise safeguarding concerns, and courts take these seriously to ensure the child’s well-being.
It’s worth noting that making false allegations can have serious consequences, so it’s crucial to base any concerns on valid reasons. Courts want to ensure the child’s safety, and raising legitimate concerns is an essential part of the process.
However, the issues that Dads Advocates have found here is when cross allegations are made contact with Dads is very often then supervised or stopped will the allegations are investigated, often taking months and sometimes years. But it in the over 1000 cases Dads Advocates have been involved in we have yet to come across a case where the same allegations have ment the Mum (usually the primary carer giver) has the same level of interim safeguarding measures inflicted upon them during investigation.
It’s true that some professionals who offer opinions about the child in family court may have primarily worked with mothers, like midwives and health visitors. While their input is valuable, it’s important for the court to consider a wide range of perspectives to make the best decisions for the child’s future. Your involvement, commitment, and willingness to provide a safe environment should also be given due consideration.
You know what’s though? You’re not alone in this. At Dads Advocates we have got your back! We are ran by Dads and a group of talented law students who know the ropes and have been through it. We are all about helping separated Dads like us during family court battles. Imagine having a team cheering you on – who have got the advice, the legal know-how, and the support that can make a big difference.
Where to Dig Deeper: Feeling curious? Good news – there’s more to explore. Check out these websites – they’ve got some great info that can help you get a handle on things:
Bottom Line: You Got This, Dad! Alright, here’s the deal – family court might feel like a rollercoaster, but you’ve got what it takes to ride it. With some solid info, a bit of support, and a whole lot of determination, you’ve got a real shot at making things work. Every case is unique, and yeah, it might not always be easy, but remember that you’re doing your best for your kids. Stay informed, reach out for help when you need it, and keep on being the awesome dad you are. You’ve got a whole team of Dads rooting for you!